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Destination Motherhood – The Business of Being Born

Ever sign up for an event without really knowing what you're in for?

I got an email invitation for something called "Mama Glow Salon Series Spring 2012" recently.  An amazing woman I happen to know and admire, Latham Thomas founded Mama Glow and I knew a lot of my "online girlfriends" would be there, so I signed up without reading the description.

I also love training moms and figured it'd be a great place to network so what the hell, right?

It turned out to be the east coast premiere of More Business of Being Born by Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein.  I had the privilege of watching the second fim in their series, Special Deliveries: Celebrity Moms Talk Straight on Birth.  Not a topic I would have knowingly signed up to learn about-but let me tell you, it was EYE-OPENING!

 

For a while I'd been on the "I don't want kids" train, and I totally changed my mind after watching this film.

What caused this shift you might be wondering?

Hearing Cindy Crawford say, as a successful woman, giving birth is the ONLY thing she can 100%, without question take full responsibility for achieving.  No make-up artists, stylists or photographers pushing the baby out for her.  And it got me thinking about how a baby is the ultimate creation.  Kinda cool, and kinda crazy at the same time.  If you're a mom you're probably thinking "Liz, you have no freaking idea!"  And at this moment, I would like to pause and recognize you for being an absolute warrior.  Seriously, wow.

Now for what I really want to share…some valuable info for those of you who are pregnant or plan on being in the future.

Here are some Mama Glow tips straight from the event program for a fabulous pregnancy:

Ricki and Abby's message: Make the most educated decision that's right for you.

You know how I roll, I'm always in favor of anything "real"…meaning natural, not processed, man-made, altered or manufactured (and if you're new here, now you know that about me).  Turns out there are A LOT of choices to make when you're having a baby that run the gamut from natural and holistic to traditional Western medicine.  

Full disclosure, I'm not an affiliate, I have nothing to gain by sharing this information with you-I just thought it was really beautiful and generous to see two women using their influence to create deeper awareness on the business of being born.

To learn more, or to view any of the documentaries in their five-part series, click here.

Now it's your turn! This is an important topic to share information about. Tell us about your birthing experience in the comments.  Specifically:

1) Did you have a plan? and if so, how did you come to the decision about what to do?

2) If you were to do it again (or if you plan to do it again) would you change anything?

3) If you're not a mom yet, has anything in this post changed your mind the way it did mine?

Destination Motherhood – The Business of Being Born
  • Maureen

    I have to say, as someone a week shy of her third trimester, the tip about staying active and exercising is KEY. Pregnancy has proven to be very very uncomfortable, and finding the right exercises and intensity level take some time, but once you find the perfect balance for your body, staying active really does help ease aches & pains. At least so far 🙂 We'll see what the next 3 months bring!

  • http://www.thedigital-diamond.com Natasha

    i have one child but when I get the chance to do it again and I desperately want to.
    1. I will have a plan and stick to it – I had a plan but the pain made me forget myself and I just stormed into the hospital demanding pain relief! Not cool.
    2. I would go swimming and do yoga to stay in shape
    3. I would enjoy every second of the pregnancy and the confidence hormones gives you ALL over again.

  • Lauren

    the thing about labor and delivery, or atleast in my experience, is that no matter how well you plan or how determined you are to have things go the way you want them to; your baby is really the one in charge. I was admandant that I wouldn't have a c section and then Will's heart rate dropped and I was having a c section. The bottom line is you need to do whatever you need to do to safely deliver that baby. 

    • Liz DiAlto

      that’s exactly what happened to one of the celebrities in the film ( I forget her name)-that’s the part that made me cry, you could tell how disappointed she was, but happy at the same time that she did the right thing for the safety of the baby.

  • Cristina von Spiegelfeld

    Someone told me that when you go into labor, you should make sure you have the energy to push.  We got to the hospital at midnight and I endured the pain until I realized I needed rest (you get very little quality sleep the last trimester). I took an epidural and slept an amazing several hours.  I'm so glad I did because, let me tell you, pushing a baby out is the hardest workout you'll ever get.  It's like trying to lift the heaviest weight in the gym.  I was close to giving up (which meant the baby would be stuck and I would need a C-section) had not the doctor said she could see his hair and it was black.  🙂  Next time, if I get to the hospital well-rested and in the middle of the day, I think I can forgo the epidural. 
    I wouldn't change much the second time around.  My first was great.  I taught and ran until the very end.  I had a fast recovery and was cleared to go to the gym at 2 weeks, started teaching again at 6 weeks, ran a 10 miler 3 months PP, and a marathon 9 months PP.   One thing I would do more the second time around is stick with yoga the entire pregnancy and not only until the last trimester. 
    One thing I will say is you should recover at your own pace.  Just because someone did it this fast, don't feel like there's something wrong with you if it doesn't come off immediately.  Despite all I did PP, I didn't lose the last 5 lbs until I stopped breastfeeding at 9 months.  And I didn't get my defined abs back until a year and a half PP.  So working out a lot isn't going to guarantee anything.  For me, I exercised as much for the mental therapy (often times it was the only "me" time away from the responsibilities of being a mother, wife, and employee) as I did to get back into shape.

  • Kathrine

    I initially don't have the plan to have babies just yet because I am emotional and financialy not ready to commit but some friends told me you'll never think about that when the time comes. You just can't help but be happy after. I'm not sure if it's applicable to all. Do you agree on this? Thanks for sharing the guide above.
    -Kathrine

  • Toni-Ann Yates

    Liz, what a great post! Having given birth twice now I definitely relate to Cindy Crawford’s quote. Not that I travel with makeup artists or photographers, but it’s something our amazing bodies do, just us and the babies! I didn’t have much of a birth plan… My husband joking said the plan is to get the baby out! But keeping an open mind is the most valuable thing you can do. I went in knowing I wanted to try for a natural birth but that I wouldn’t beat myself up if I wanted an epidural. I read a ton to prepare and took a childbirth class. Education is essential, knowledge is power! I had both of my boys without epidural, but did allow myself some intravenous pain relief when in transition. I wouldn’t change a thing!!! Both of my births were amazing and albeit painful, pain with purpose. Amazing!!! I did prenatal yoga, one on one with an amazing teacher, and really benefitted from that. Most of all, I really enjoyed my pregnancies, although packed on more weight than I would have liked! Watch out for cravings! Oh, and as always, drink tons of water! Thanks for giving me a chance to appreciate my amazing body for doing an amazing thing, twice!!

  • http://www.pamelajorrick.blogspot.com Pamela Jorrick

    Great post Liz! I think it's hard to imagine how crazy cool being a mom is until you become one. From the outside it's all diapers and minivans, but in reality- you MAKE a person! How awesome is that?! The births of my babies were incredibly empowering experiences where I realized so much about my strength- both physical and emotional- that I never knew was there.
    Sadly, for so many women, birth is far from empowering, but more of something done to them. I've been working with moms for over 10 years, and it's always an honor when they I see them realizing they can trust themselves, their bodies, their babies and the process. No matter what path a birth takes, it's always smoother when the mother is empowered, informed and supported and not just treated like an accident waiting to happen.
    Thanks for sharing!

  • http://www.niraeyal.com nira eyal

    thak you' liz.