EP278: A Conversation About Men With Robert Kandell
Robert Kandell is back on the show and we are honing in big time on the topic of MEN. Not in like the Salt N Pepa, “Girls, what’s my weakness?! MEN!” way, but rather, the “what’s going on for men right now?” way. I appreciated this conversation a lot because while we focus mainly on the issues effecting women on this show, most of us have men in our lives that we really care about and have no desire to shut out, or shut down. Nor are we interested in dismissing men in general. It’s just kind of hard to hold them in as much compassion sometimes, especially right now in 2018 as this episode is going live … so Rob and I discussed why that is and how we can ALL do better together.
We got into the history of patriarchy, what exactly toxic masculinity is, male vulnerability, when and why people actually change, the different ways men and women feel validated, cultivating self esteem, three parts to great communication and more.
This is a great episode to share with the men in your life and use as a conversation starter for connection and understanding, enjoy and share!
About Robert Kandell:
Robert Kandell has been helping men find themselves for fourteen years. By creating a relationship of absolute approval with his clients he is able to see the parts, which are hidden in their shadows: fetishes, hurts and hidden desires. With a loving hand, he encourages men to accept these traits and utilize them as internal power. An expert in interpersonal communication and relationships, he has helped thousands of students find a more balanced, energized life with better relationships, more sex and more happiness. His coaching style is challenging, fraternal and highly rewarding and definitely not for the faint hearted, he has been described as “part football coach, part loving dad and part slightly crazed drill sergeant”. He is the host of the highly successes podcast, Tuff Love. To learn more about Robert and his revolutionary work, visit www.RobertKandell.com
What You’ll Hear:
4:37 On many aspects of privilege
13:43 How Rob was inspired to write his book Unhidden
22:17 What causes toxic masculinity
30:38 What creates accountability + male vulnerability
40:34 How men can cultivate holding space + self-esteem
47:37 The impact of texting on an intimate relationship
unHIDDEN by Robert Kandell
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