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How To Integrate and Harmonize Masculine and Feminine Energy


This is the second installment in a 10-part series I did through July 26 this year to do a more thorough exploration of some of the topics that come up most consistently on the podcast. Each of these instructional blog posts has a corresponding Facebook Live video too, which you can find at the end of this post along with links to previous sessions, if you want to explore the rest of the series.

I’ve also created a worksheet for you to help implement what you learn. When you download it you get:

-An overview of healthy and unhealthy expressions of masculine and feminine energy
-A fill in the blank exercise to discover where in your life you’re expressing in healthy or unhealthy ways
-Three keys for integrating and harmonizing your energy for wholeness

Grab the worksheet here.


Last week we talked about connecting with and cultivating your feminine, so this week we’re diving into how to integrate and harmonize your masculine and feminine energies. You simply cannot have one without the other. They’re not separate, they’re complementary.

It feels important to mention that this is not a gender conversation, it’s an energy conversation. I know a lot of people get bogged down in relating the energy to the gender and when you can stop doing that, and distinguish between the two and see how no matter what gender you identify with at any given time, these energies are operating within you, you can gain some deep understanding of yourself and useful insight into  how you operate.

Think of it as another means of identifying the archetypes within; healthy and unhealthy expressions of your unique masculine and feminine energies. It’s similar to knowing your sun/moon/rising signs in astrology, your MBTI, Enneagram, Human Design, and etc.

Familiarity with all of these typologies and archetypes helps to create a frame of reference for discovering your own true nature so you can have more respect for both yourself and others. When you know and understand yourself it’s easier to stay true to who you are, to honor and trust your instincts, intuition, and discernment; rather than getting wrapped up in what everyone else does or how you’ve been told “should” do things.


In general:

This not an exhaustive list. Starting with the basics lays the foundation for understanding.

• Healthy expressions of feminine:
Non-linear, cyclical, flexible and adaptable, fluid, intuitive, feeling, inconsistent, receptive, compassionate, graceful

• Unhealthy expressions of feminine:
Chaotic, erratic, helpless, spiritual bypass, over-dramatic, manipulative

• Healthy expressions of masculine:
Linear, structured, forward moving, organized, logical, rational, consistent

• Unhealthy expressions of masculine:
Dominating/tyrannical, controlling/forceful, ego-centric, “by any means necessary” attitude, overworking

There’s a reason why I chose the word “harmonize” for this post and not “balance.” It’s not usually going to be a 50/50 split. As you recognize and integrate these energies within yourself it’s more of a dance.

Masculine can be go, go, go; all work, all the time; constant action. Feminine can be more receptive and magnetic. Think of the masculine as the container, and the feminine as the creative force inside.

More specific:

Here’s what a harmonized masculine and feminine could look like in a workflow:

• Healthy masculine: at the beginning of a project, look at the big picture, organize ideas, add some structure, create steps; day to day: pick three things that need to get done and commit

• Healthy feminine: throughout the course of the day, doing whatever I want – float from doing work, to taking breaks, movement, walks, being in nature, prayer, meditation, reading, etc. (while still getting the things done). Depending on where I am in my menstrual cycle, I may rest more or work more according to my natural energy.


We show up differently in different areas of our life, depending on relationships, proficiency and skill set, history and etc. When a situation is comfortable and familiar, it’s easier to use healthy expressions. When a situation is uncomfortable, new, contains trauma or pain, it’s easier to go into unhealthy expressions.

The different life categories (health and body, relationships – different types, growth and spirituality, career, money, home and environment, lifestyle and interests) are laid out in the worksheet at so you can get a gauge for how you’re currently showing up in each.


Integration simply means blending things and using them to complement each other; to become whole. So here’s some examples of how to integrate the masculine and feminine:

• If you’re feeling cranky because you need rest, reorganize schedule and plan in the rest (employing healthy masculine to support the feminine)

• Making “logical” decisions and choices by pausing, tapping into your intuition and ability to be flexible (using healthy feminine to support masculine)


Use the knowledge learned here and your own ability to discern what works best and how this can be applied in your own life whether you have a 9-5 job, have kids, are in a relationship or not, live on your own or with others, and etc.

Again, there’s a lot of room to play and explore how these concepts apply to you personally. For a bit more guidance on how to do that, download the worksheet here and watch the video below.

For last week’s post on connecting to and cultivating your feminine click here.

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How To Integrate and Harmonize Masculine and Feminine Energy