Social Media Management …for individuals
Quick note, if you’re the type of person who only logs into Facebook or Twitter once or twice a day (if that) and somehow you avoid getting sucked in for obscene periods of time…this whole post may not be for you but I’d love to know in the comments how and why you manage it.
I took a week off from social media and I LOVED IT.
For those of you who run a business and think the walls will come crumbling down if you ignore social media for a few days-I’m happy to report that I signed my biggest business consulting deal to date and a new fitness coaching client while I was “offline.”
I’ve tried before to say, “I’ll only check FB and Twitter twice a day.” That never works. So this time I had my assistant change my passwords and not give them back to me until my week was up. Easily the best “cleanse” I’ve ever done.
You may be wondering what social media management has to do with health and fitness, and that’s exactly why I’m writing about it today-like most unconventional things I bring up here, the answer is simple…ENERGY.
I’ve divided this post into three parts…The Why, What I Learned, and The How. When you finish reading this entire post, I’d love your feedback in the comments. I have a feeling you can deeply relate.
Social media can be a massive waste of time, a complete energy suck, and a haven for making unecessary comparisons that damage your self-image. (Jen Comas Keck did a killer post on social media and self image that you can read here.)
And that’s what I’d let it become in my life. I found myself commenting on things I don’t care about by people I don’t even know in real life. I had to wonder why I cared? I didn’t. I was either bored or avoiding doing something else.
I was also way to involved in Facebook groups. Ever since I was little I’ve always been one to jump in and help those in need. I’d let my boundaries around that get very blurry.
I was an emotional social media-er. Some people reach for food to fill emotional voids, I was reaching for pointless interaction. As a big extrovert who works pre-dominantly in front of a computer these days, I realized I need to spend more time out in the world.
Don’t get me wrong, I know social media can also be a gift. How else can we reconnect with elementary school friends we never thought we’d see again, or foster online relationships with important people in our lives who we can’t just grab a coffee with when we feel like it? It’s just like everything else in life. It’s a choice.
I chose to take a break because I needed a pattern interrupt. (Maybe you do, too?)
WHAT I LEARNED
Being “logged out” gave me space and freedom for creativity. Instead of checking my Facebook first thing when I woke up, I read, journaled, and meditated. Ideas were flowing, inspiration came easily, I was still connected to the most important people in my life.
I can be extra focused and productive. Without constantly interrupting my work or creative flow, I get way more done in way less time. Hallelujah!
We all have a need to be seen and heard. During my hiatus I noticed the things that I had an impulse to post on FB or Tweet…and since I wasn’t doing it, I took that time instead to ask “why?” Why did I want to share that thing? Why did I want attention or interaction in that moment? That was a much more valuabe use of my time and some of the answers were pretty eye opening.
Social media makes it really tempting to share any damn thing that comes to mind. I decided it’s best to have some kind of quality standards. From now on, I only share things that are hilarious, useful or inspiring.
Other stuff will be filtered out because my Facebook “friends” don’t really need to know that I just went to the grocery store, came home, cooked dinner which was delicous, and now I’m about to urinate after which I will wipe myself and watch White Collar on Netflix.
The break was the perfect fix! I’m back “online” but after a week without social media, I have no desire to fill my voids with it. I’m no longer pumped to check notifications, I ignore most of them, and I’ll only pop into my groups once or twice a week, scan, then get the hell out of there. This feels so much better!
Have I piqued your interest? Wanna give it a try? Here’s what I recommend:
1. Have someone you trust change your passwords so you can’t login even if you want to
2. Filter or turn off any email notifications
3. Grab a book you’ve been meaning to read (I know I’m not the only one with like 7 books gathering dust that I’m “dying to read!”) and reach for that when you think about Facebook or Twitter
4. Delete the apps from your phone (you may never want to reinstall them either, I haven’t)
5. Enjoy your time off
6. Come back to this post and leave a comment telling me about it!
Now it’s your turn. What did you think? Can you relate? Did any of my points strike a nerve for you or bring up some important questions about how you spend your time online? Let us know in the comments!
Social Media Management …for individuals