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EP315: Managing The Motherload with Rebekah Borucki

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My dear friend Rebekah Borucki is back for her third visit on Truth Telling and this time her big truth is around realizing that she has influence and is not the underdog she’s perceived and positioned herself as for most of her life.

We talked a lot about motherhood, from mom guilt, going after your dreams, finding balance in relationships, the difference between raising young kids and having older children, to dealing with conflicts, giving kids the space and support to be who they are meant to be, and more!

The conversation is less about parenting and more about the experience of being a mother through all of its phases and stages.

As always when Bex is in the house, it’s a juice and deep conversation. Enjoy and share – especially with your mom groups and friends!

xo,
E

About Rebekah Borucki:
Rebekah “Bex” Borucki, the founder of BEXLIFE® and the BLISSED IN® wellness movement, is a mother of five, TV host, meditation and yoga guide, birth doula, and author of You Have 4 Minutes to Change Your Life and the upcoming Managing the Motherload. Her mission is to make mental health support and stress management tools accessible to all.

In February 2017, Hay House published Rebekah’s first book, You Have 4 Minutes to Change Your Life: Simple 4-Minute Meditations for Inspiration, Transformation, and True Bliss. Her newest book, Managing the Motherload: A Guide to Creating More Ease, Space, and Grace in Motherhood, will be released by Hay House in August 2019.

Rebekah lives with her husband, children, and a gaggle of rescued farm animals on their 8-acre homestead in New Jersey, which is also home to her private studio and community learning space, the Blissed In{n}.

Connect with Rebekah:
Website | Facebook | Instagram

What You’ll Hear:
2:32 Dealing with racism at a feminist women’s circle
4:38 How words are cheap until you know someone’s integrity
7:49 Why therapy is so needed in our lives
9:37 Elizabeth’s friend trying to convince her on the benefits of lying
11:43 Situations where it is appropriate to lie
14:38 Not telling the whole truth for privacy reasons
16:48 The truth that’s having an impact on Rebekah’s life right now
19:41 How speaking up has allowed Rebekah to be apart of new communities
23:23 The feeling of being in a room that isn’t run by whiteness
27:14 Marginalized groups getting the attention that they deserve
29:26 Being told that their natural features aren’t acceptable
31:07 Divesting from businesses that support what we don’t believe in
33:47 Why a teacher has to resonate with Elizabeth and what safe spaces mean to her
36:21 How white women can contribute to working toward anti-blackness
40:57 Being shocked about what her “woke” friend said about gender terms and neutrality
45:21 Understanding when it’s time to listen as a white woman
52:24 Being in autopilot in motherhood and deciding to heal her mother wounds
54:19 Realizing how you’re affecting your children
56:58 Getting back into therapy after having an argument with her kids
58:20 Allowing children to be honest with you
01:01:16 Checking in with kids and asking them for consent 
01:03:23 Getting consent from your kids to share secrets, stories, pictures, etc.
01:07:44 What the seed cycle is 
01:09:30 The combination of nature and nurture when it comes to raising your children
01:13:20 Approaching things in a non-shaming way as a parent

Resources:
Managing the Motherload
Sister’s With Aspiration Book Club
Mama Gena
Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body 
Blissed In: Heal Your Soul, Raise Your Voice
Support Bex’ Kickstarter for her children’s book Zara’s Big Messy Day That Turned Out Okay

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Quotes:
“It’s really, really important to me to live in integrity and full honesty.” – Rebekah Borucki 

“It’s easy for me to tell the truth about myself, where it gets tricky is when other people are involved.” – Rebekah Borucki 

“I don’t know if white women can feel it. I don’t know if they’ve felt the difference but for the women of color, there was a difference. There is an ease, familiarity, and permission to be yourself.” – Rebekah Borucki 

“It’s about figuring out where am I contributing to the harm and where can I roll it back and doing that within my ability.” – Rebekah Borucki 

“I have and still have a lot of learning to do. It’s a hard education, I am seeing things come up that I didn’t even know was there, its that unconscious bias.” – Rebekah Borucki 

“What it really means to be “woke” is to understand that there’s so much to learn. You have to be constantly open to being taught, to being exposed and to having to just look hard at yourself. It is daily work.” – Rebekah Borucki 

“For me, I think the cure for guilt is action.” – Rebekah Borucki 

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EP315: Managing The Motherload with Rebekah Borucki