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How + Why Exercise = Better Sex

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A few months back I teamed up with my gal pal Sarah Jenks from The Breathtaking Bride to do a post for The Beauty Bean on the relationship between fitness and sex.  You know me, always looking for new ways to keep you motivated…what could be more enticing than better sex? Read on…

In this article, we’re going to change the way you think about your workouts and your sex life and reveal the many ways in which the two are intertwined. By the time we’re done with you, your appreciation for both should be at an all time high. And, we’re pretty confident you’ll be approaching your next sweat session, be it at the gym or in the bedroom, with greater gusto than ever before!

How Fitness Can Boost Your Sex Life

The Problem: I’m too stressed to have sex, plus I don’t have any time!

A lot of women have to-do lists a mile long, causing frequent (sometimes even chronic) stress. When stressed, our bodies release hormones meant to aide in our survival in a life-threatening situation. And while this response is adaptive in truly life-threatening situations, that fast-approaching deadline (no matter what your boss says) is far from life or death. Unfortunately, our bodies don’t know that and the surge in hormones can send our libidos plummeting.

The Sexy Solution: Fitness!

Exercise, which gets your blood flowing and your breath going, releases chemicals that counteract your stress response while also giving you a break from the daily grind. The result: you’ll not only set yourself up for a stronger sex-drive by reducing stress, but also you will begin a practice of making time for yourself.  Plus, working out and having sex is the best way to “re-fuel” so that you’ll have the energy to spend on your busy life.

The Problem: I don’t want to be seen without my clothes (especially not with the lights on!)

As women, we often forget that beautiful and sexy are multifaceted. There is no cookie cutter definition of either. So if you don’t think you’re beautiful, if you don’t feel sexy when you look in the mirror without clothes on, ask yourself, “Why?” Is it because you don’t look like the airbrushed celebrities in your favorite magazine or because Cosmo isn’t calling you to shoot this month’s cover? To that we say, “Who cares?!” Dig deep and choose what’s beautiful and sexy about you-rather than accept what pop culture and multimedia dictates it should be. Why is this so important? Because it gives you the power and it plants the seed for confidence.

The Sexy Solution: Get Confident!

Ladies, sex and working out have a few obvious things in common: they’re hot and potentially sweaty, they get your heart rate up, can be rough, euphoric and involve deep desire for something you want. They both also help boost your confidence. And the bottom line is this: if you love your body, your lover will too. Confidence makes any package sexier, so even if you’re not 100% comfortable in your skin, walking around as if you are (we’ve all heard the old adage, “fake it ‘til you make it”) is super hot. And although you can’t touch confidence or draw a picture of it, you can feel it and harness it in ways that are sexier than any body fat percentage or number on a scale. So, the next time you hit the gym or the sack, pretend that you are the most fit woman there, or the sexiest femme on the planet.  Take that feeling, and use it to fuel your sex and fitness ambitions from now on.  Eventually, you won’t be faking it anymore, you’ll be making it!

How to boost your sex-drive and your moves, with exercise!

The Problem: I have success-drive, but no sex-drive.

As modern women, we have developed an incredible drive for success.  We start companies, graduate at the top of our class, climb up the corporate ladder and run charities. We’ve been taught to use our minds, our reasoning, our drive (aka our masculine qualities) and commonly ignore our intuition, our gut instincts, our creativity and our emotions (aka our feminine qualities). There is nothing wrong with sharp reasoning and unwavering drive, but all of that intellectual action happens in our head and we easily lose touch with all the magic that happens in our bodies: the origin of intuition, creativity and, most importantly, sensuality. So, if you’re the kind of girl who’s kicking ass at work and not making waves in the bedroom, it’s probably because you’re too in your head, and not in touch with your body.

The Sexy Solution: Working out!

Exercise gets you in touch with your feminine side because feminine energy lives in your body.  Moving, sweating and getting the blood flowing will get you very connected to the energy and beauty of your body. When you stop living your life from the neck up, you can tap into your feminine energy, your sensuality, your creativity and naturally raise your libido. Best workout to build sensuality? Dance.

The Problem: I’m never quite sure if I’m doing the right thing.

A lot of women bog themselves down in comparisons. The silliest part?  Often we aren’t even sure what we’re comparing ourselves to! We’re just “positive” it’s something better. This mentality has got to go.

The Sexy Solution: Bring the gym into the bedroom.

If you know how to exercise, you know how to have great sex. You know how to squat, lunge, squeeze, contract, pick up the pace or slow it down. You’ve done exercises in standing, seated and floor positions. You know what to do! So be sexy, be confident, (maybe even leave the light on!) and, most importantly, enjoy yourself.

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How + Why Exercise = Better Sex