I’m pretty sure this was my favorite conversation on the show in the last three years. Not just because it primarily focuses on sex, but because our guest Marcia Baczynski is really brilliant at what she does, and we addressed things that most people simply don’t talk about or receive education on.
Marcia’s big truth was that she can change her mind. From there we explored:
-What Cuddle Parties are (she’s the co-founder),
-Navigating boundaries, consent, preferences and assumptions in sex.
-Gender, heterosexual and non-heterosexual dynamics in love and sex.
-Power dynamics! Which is something I’ve been really wanting to explore on the show – and why people may or may not feel obligated to say yes to things they are really not ok with sexually.
-And she also introduced some great concepts like desire smuggling and the difference between consent and permission.
This is one to listen to more than once, share with friends, and use as a conversation piece with loved ones. Enjoy!
About Marcia Baczynski:
Marcia is an internationally-recognized speaker, writer, coach and expert on sexual communication, relationships and women’s empowerment. Her primary mission is to help women and the people who love them to overcome shame and get in touch with what they truly want — romantically, sexually and relationally — even if it’s off the beaten path.
As co-founder of Cuddle Party, Marcia has helped tens of thousands of people to speak up for the kind of touch they want, say No unapologetically, and foster more connected, affectionate relationships. Her popular virtual course, “The Good Girl Recovery Program,” helps women to break out of the roles that keep them small and unsatisfied, and move into being more of who they are in all areas of their lives. In the Make Hot Play Happen weekend intensive, she co-teaches with renowned educator Midori, and helps people more fun, lower stakes, hotter sex, more creativity and better connection in bed.
Marcia brings wisdom, humor, and creativity to all aspects of her work, and offers a fresh perspective on love, sex and relationships. Each year, she works with a select group of private clients. Since 2003, she has helped tens of thousands of people through her private coaching, workshops and group programs.
Marcia is a sought-after presenter and coach, and she has made over 100 magazines, newspapers, TV shows, books and radio appearances, including The Rolling Stone, The Montel Williams Show, Fox News, NPR, the Washington Post, the New York Post, the San Francisco Chronicle, GQ, Marie Claire, People, Newsweek, The Daily Mail, and Penn & Teller’s Bullsh*t, to name just a few. She has been interviewed for, and cited in, a number of books as well.
When she’s not scheming ways to make the world a better place through improving intimate relationships, Marcia enjoys finding creative ways to use her frequent-flier miles, reading historical marker signs, dressing up, planning adventures, going sailing, hanging out at the beach, spending time with her family and being the best auntie she can to the kids in her life. She lives in the Bay Area.
What You’ll Hear:
6:40 Cuddle Party and Consent 101
24:48 Non-heterosexual relationships, consent, and conversations
31:10 Power dynamics within society + the varying ranges of culture across the U.S.
47:30 How everyone has the right to use their voice + navigating the conversation of good and bad sex
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