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The Process of REAL Transformation


This is the ninth installment in a 10-part series I did through July 26 this year called Wild Soul Summer School. The purpose is to do a more thorough exploration of some of the topics that come up most consistently on the podcast. Each of these instructional blog posts has a corresponding Facebook Live video too, which you can find at the end of this post along with links to previous sessions if you want to explore the rest of the series.


All of our previous sessions have some sort of downloadable checklist, guide, or video to go along with the lesson.

Over the course of the past eight weeks, we’ve covered things like how to embody your feminine energy, how to integrate your masculine and feminine energy, how to surrender, how to let things go, and more.

We’ve also talked about trusting yourself, receptivity, and I shared a moving meditation practice to help you connect to and trust yourself.

All of this leads me to today’s topic, REAL TRANSFORMATION, because each thing we’ve covered so far is an element.


We live in an information age and many of us are crossing over into a more intuitive way of living, trusting ourselves to consume less and not seeking all of our validation and lessons outside of ourselves.

I’ve create programs, frameworks, and tools to help women really get inside of their own selves, with the core idea being that “everything you’ve ever needed has always been inside of you.”
And even though I’m giving you the tools, I can’t empower you or give you a voice, you have to take these things and integrate them into your own life.

We are all so different and unique, even with all the similarities we have – some of you are mothers, some of you have full or part time careers, some of you are in relationships, some aren’t, some are in relationships with men, or women, or multiple people.

This is about focusing on who YOU are, how you show up, what you value and what’s important to you in the world, and how you can be the best version of yourself no matter what’s going on around you.

There’s always going to be chaos, drama, and trauma, and wanting things to be all “love and light” is a bypass of what actually happens in the world.

I know many of you identify as empaths and feel a divine responsibility to help people. Whether you operate as a leader through a business, a certain role at your job, leading a household or a family, or simply realizing that all of your interactions are impacting someone, even the cashier at the grocery story or the person who delivers your mail.

If you’re someone who cares about being an amazing person and using your talents, gifts, skills, intellect, etc. and loving yourself, respecting yourself and other people, let’s talk about how to *actually* do that.


You can read all the memes and quotes on social media, read a great new book, even listen to things like my podcast and have all kinds of insights. If you’re not doing anything with all of the information that you’re consuming, what kind of a difference are you actually making in your own life or anyone else’s?

When I think of transformation, I think of the term alchemy, which was about turning metal into gold, so turning something less valuable into something more valuable.

We ALL have things from our own lives like horrible events that have happened, crappy circumstances, old woundings, and things that we’ve inherited from our families and cultures of origin, etc. We’ve working through stuff ranging from limiting beliefs to things that have actually happened to us personally and been traumatizing.

This is all the stuff we get to turn into something better and more useful.

Alchemy requires three things: Something to be transformed, the energy to transform it, and the container in which to transform it.

Things like this Facebook live series, the Wild Soul Movement program, and my Wild Soul Movement Weekend Workshops are all containers that I create so that people can transform, and inside of them is the energy to be transformed.

There are many elements to transformation, here are a few I believe are most crucial: Awareness, Knowledge, Acceptance, Practice, Trust, Support.

Most often I hear that things like fear, limiting beliefs, past experiences etc. are what stand between people and actually doing something with all of the information they are learning.

You have to know what you don’t know and know what you desire to change or transform, and have your eye on some kind of an outcome to get results.

If you’re just consuming aimlessly, the only thing you’re doing effectively is acquiring more things to think about and take up your time.


You know that you’re making progress if you’re responding to situations and people differently than you used to, and treating people and yourself differently. It’s progress when your behaviors and habits are changing, and you’re committed to showing up and doing the work even when it’s challenging.

This is not because you need to be fixed or there’s anything wrong with you, it’s because you know that you have so much potential and you want to use it!

The one common purpose we all have is to continue moving forward, evolving and being the very best versions of ourselves.We are all interconnected so the work we do on ourselves affects other people as well.

Accountability is helpful because trying to go at this alone, while it can be done, takes longer.

Having other people to support you adds velocity to your progress. Whether that’s friends that have more experience, or some kind of guide to add the helpful energy of believing along with you and offering insight and advice. Or even just someone to say“you’ve got this” during the moments when you have doubts and don’t believe in yourself. All of these are forms of support.

As you grow and transform, and consider things like who to hire, what program to do, what book to read, or even what class to attend, always be filtering these decisions through your body, because this is how you’re able to make better choices.

Rather than making decisions from a pros/cons list, checking in with yourself will help you discern whether something is the next best step on your journey.

In our minds, we can talk ourselves into and out of anything, but feeling into decisions and whether or not something is for you allows you to make good decisions, because your resources – your time, effort, energy, attention, money – are valuable.

Don’t try to implement everything all at once. Start with the elements that feel the most relevant and important to you right now, and take one step at a time from there.

If you’re someone that’s been doing this alone for a long time, maybe your top priority would be getting some accountability, finding a group to be a part of, or a guide that you trust.

Instead of seeking more new information, it could be really helpful to figure out how to integrate what you’ve already got.

Watch this week’s video:


If you’ve missed any of the earlier Wild Soul Summer School sessions you’re catching and you want to check out the rest, here are the links:

Session #1: Connecting to and Cultivating Your Feminine
Session #2: Integrating and Harmonizing Your Masculine and Feminine Energy
Session #3: How To Let Things Go (For Good)
Session #4: Do You Speak YOUR Body’s Language?
Session #5: Use This Feminine Super Power to Move Through Resistance
Session #6: How to Trust Yourself
Session #7: Soul Soothing, Body Loving Exercise for Women
Session #8: Three Soulful Tools for Prosperity, Joy, Pleasure, and Ease

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The Process of REAL Transformation