EP 317: Autobiography of an Orgasm with Betsy Murphy
It’s taken me about two years to get today’s guest on the show and it was so worth the wait! Before we dive in though I do want to give a trigger warning for anyone with sexual assault or abuse in their history because we do go there a bit and Betsy shares pieces of her story and experiences.
Her truth was about reclaiming the potential of the body to feel good, especially as it relates to female sexual dysfunction. This launched us into a conversation about body memory. Often we hear about the body storing trauma and “bad” memories and Betsy reminded us that the body also stores potential and good memories.
We talked about honoring the uniqueness of healing journeys, body wisdom, body truth and what the “care” in self-care actually means.
Betsy shared her experience and perspective on menopause, orgasms, reclaiming our voices and responsible use of our stories and storytelling.
It’s so good, I hope you love listening to it as much as I loved having it. You may even want to review it a few times to let it all sink in, enjoy!
About Betsy Murphy:
Betsy B. Murphy is an author, humanitarian, and veteran filmmaker of several acclaimed feature documentaries. She founded Figaro Films, Inc. in 1998 to produce important films which inspire, enlighten, entertain and educate.
Her feature documentary, New York in the Fifties (2001), was hailed as “an enlightening and entertaining history lesson about one of the most creative and influential groups of individuals in the 20th century” by Box Office Magazine.
After earning the trust of Crispus Attucks High’s players and coaches, she was selected to produce Something to Cheer About, which received a grant from the Roy W. Dean Foundation for “Excellence and Dedication in filmmaking” and was selected by the International Documentary Association’s 2002 Film Festival.
Amongst her various philanthropic contributions, Murphy founded House of Loveness after a personal trip to Africa resulted in a heartbreaking tragedy. Her organization provides care and education to abandoned and orphaned children in Zimbabwe and offers hope for a brighter future. Deeply connected to the community, she spends several weeks a year working overseas with the children.
Born and raised in Indiana, Murphy began her career as a producer/writer of commercials and nonfiction programming after obtaining a BFA in broadcast journalism from Southern Methodist University. She is the mother of four children and, when she isn’t traveling, calls Florida home.
What You’ll Hear:
7:12 Reclaiming womanhood and figuring out what works for us
7:54 How becoming a grandmother gave Betsy a new energy
9:39 Why Betsy likes the younger generations
11:35 Releasing trauma as it happens
13:35 Betsy and Elizabeth’s experiences with fitness
15:49 The truth that’s having an impact on Betsy’s life right now
18:32 How most medical doctors don’t recognize nervous system trauma
21:39 Separating yourself from the identity of your diagnosis
23:48 Taking a dance class to help her tune into her body
25:47 Committing to getting to know her body
28:56 The difference between paying attention to your body and taking care of it
31:09 Growing up with her nervous system on overdrive
34:43 Experiencing menopausal symptoms and dismissing the idea of it
37:46 Why Betsy wishes she had examples of women loving their bodies at different ages
40:18 Being responsible for your own recovery work
46:17 Paying attention to your triggers
48:39 How Betsy’s book changed Elizabeth’s perspective on orgasms
51:51 Experiencing her first orgasm after healing from trauma
54:37 Owning your ability to please your own body
57:27 Elizabeth’s experience doing stand-up comedy
1:01:15 Not leaving people in trauma when storytelling
1:02:50 Reclaiming your potential to feel good
1:07:30 Understanding when to share your story
1:10:35 Knowing how you want people to feel when you share your story
1:15:18 Not getting stuck in the victim stage
1:22:41 Getting out of the mindset of labels
1:24:40 Bety’s books that are coming out within the next year
1:27:11 The importance of sharing our story
Autobiography of an Orgasm
Outrageous Openness: Letting the Divine Take the Lead
Autobiographies of Our Orgasms: A Collection of Your Stories
Autobiographies of Our Orgasms 2: A Collection of Your Stories
Autobiographies of Our Orgasms, 3: A Collection of Your Stories
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“Every day of the month our body is different no matter what age you are.” – Betsy Murphy
“Trauma had changed the biology of my body and I changed it back.” – Betsy Murphy
“Our body remembers our potential.” – Betsy Murphy
“I’m always trying to treat the roots of things rather than looking at the symptom.” – Betsy Murphy
“You can’t do self-care without caring about yourself deeply.” – Betsy Murphy
“I’m at the most sensual part of my life and I’m not even in a partnership with anybody.” – Betsy Murphy
“We live in this world where women from a young age haven’t been given permission to let our voices and our bodies take up space.” – Betsy Murphy
“You have to be responsible as a storyteller to take people into trauma and not leave them there.” – Betsy Murphy
“It goes beyond just sharing your story, it’s about what feeling and energy you want to leave in the room.” – Betsy Murphy
“It’s important for us to share our stories, we all have one.” – Betsy Murphy
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EP 317: Autobiography of an Orgasm with Betsy Murphy